Information

● Students face emotional, economic, and social challenges

● Most do not exhibit antisocial behavior or low self-esteem, but they do need help academically and emotionally

● Often the facts of the incarceration are kept from the child. They may be told their parent is away to college or with a relative

● Students face a stigma and your unconditional acceptance of them reassures them

 

Start a Conversation

Wait for and take up your student’s lead when talking about incarceration rather than asking a direct question. Use statements such as:

● Tell me about your family

● Who lives with you in your home?

● Who do you look up to in your family?

 

Listen Carefully and Thoughtfully

● Avoid asking for too many details to test the truth of the child’s statements. Focus on the emotions related to being away from the parent rather than the circumstances

● If the student knows of the incarceration, listen with empathy, gentleness, and kindness.

 

Affirmation

● Encourage positive feelings of their family members.

● Look for ways to tell the student that their family must really care for them

● Affirm efforts and progress in school

● Encourage; let them know it’s great that they are able to talk about their thoughts and feelings